|Posted by Natacha Tormey on June 7, 2014 at 8:15 AM|
I would be lying if I claimed that achieving my life-long goal of becoming a writer has been the happiest event in my life.
It is bittersweet. When writing a book about your life, it seems that no matter what you do, there will always be those that will be unhappy about it. Some are driven by envy and others, by their firm belief that your perspective and opinions are wrong, and that theirs are right. There are also those who believe that by publishing my memoir, I am in some way trying to cause pain, which could not be further from the truth.
It has been a long, tough road but as always I have focused on the positive that has come from it. I call it ‘finding rainbows’. I have often coped with hard times by hunting for the good in bad situations. If you look hard enough, you will always find these rainbows...they are there but only if you choose to see them.
In this particular situation, I have found many rainbows. For one, I count myself lucky to have seen the true colours of many people in my life and I now know who I can trust and who I want continue building relationships with, moving forward. Secondly, I focus on the positive reactions I have had from people who have read my story and who have been given hope for their own future. But more importantly, I have found happiness and incredible satisfaction through telling my story. It is the final chapter of my healing process. I can now look back on my past with calm acceptance and move forward into the future with a liberated heart and a peaceful soul.
I have also learned many valuable lessons through this experience - the prominent one being that it is ok to do something that you believe is right, even if others do not agree. It is ok to make your own path and share your own views, even if others hate you for it. It is ok to be YOU...the real YOU and not the YOU that others would like you to be.
The truth really has set me free.